EveryBody Deserves to be Happy!

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Last week Lucie Bluebird did something amazing – she launched Project EveryBody. The project encourages us all to stop judging ourselves and others for how we choose to look in this virtual world (and out if it) – I highly recommend reading her interesting and thought-provoking posts.

For her first blogger challenge from this site, Lucie encourages us to be brave, to create a look we might usually have never dared to try – something that we might admire but is too far from our perception of our virtual selves or out of our comfort zone for us to have previously embraced.

It took me a good while to figure out what to do for this challenge as I think that I’m pretty flexible about what I blog and I genuinely am attracted to many different styles – it’s usually time that constrains me rather than willingness. Then I realised: Chiana has never had boobs. I’ve seen absolutely amazing avatars that have mesh breasts but, while admiring them, I never felt that the look was ‘for me.’ Initially I wasn’t sure how to go about making Chiana more busty – which implants to try and how easy they would be to fit – and then I remembered something that is gaining a lot of attention right now – the WowMeh fitted mesh body by Baby Ghosn (in-world store here, blog here). I hadn’t bought one earlier as I wasn’t convinced it would add that much to my general look but I read that it had recently been updated to work with breast sliders so I thought it might be perfect for this post.

The body itself is headless and works with SL shape sliders so it’s really easy to adjust and get your own unique look that’s a lot more flexible to what can be achieved with the standard avatar. It comes with a lot of nice features including a set of casual hands and flat feet (I also purchased the additional tiptoe feet) but you can, with a little effort, make it work with Slink attachments too. I had some difficulty with seams that didn’t show so much in my poses but that I wouldn’t be happy walking around with BUT I haven’t spent a lot of time trying to get everything ‘just right’ and it seems to me, and judging by feedback from others, that it should be possible. In any case, WowMeh is still a work in progress and updates are free so it will be interesting to see how the body develops and it’s a lot of fun watching more skin and clothing creators get on board.

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(I think this is also the first time I’ve had my nipples out in this blog – so we’ll see what that does for site traffic 😉 )

As I began playing with my shape to balance out my new mighty boobs I realised I didn’t want to stop there: I decided I would also utilise this challenge to be brave about something the real-life me has a lot of trouble with – reveling in a much curvier shape. My own body has grown so much over the years, for various reasons, but my self-love has never grown with it. I’ve denied myself so many fun activities just because I think I’d look idiotic doing them, always with the promise that I’ll do them ‘when I’m thin again’ and I never, ever, look at myself as being sexy even when people in my life have insisted that I am. So, you can imagine that the idea of being the centre of attention, on stage, flaunting my shape is pretty much the stuff of my nightmares. At the same time, I adore women that are comfortable enough in their own skins to not care what others may think and who just fucking own it! – I wanted to join their ranks, if only for one glorious virtual moment!

What really surprised me over the course of preparing this post is how much I’ve come to love this shape – I think it looks adorable. Obviously, it’s still pretty idealised – nothing sags or has stretch-marks – and I wouldn’t say it’s even particularly that fat – but it’s pretty large by SL standards and I’ve certainly been this size in real life and still felt like a whale which, when I look back now, is an awful lot of wasted time hating myself when I could have been out having fun and being happy.

Being larger in SL has its own challenges – getting anything with standard sizing to fit is obviously not likely to be possible but I’m already looking forward to seeing what other outfits I can put together. While I still can’t see this becoming my default ‘look,’ I think I’ll be using it a lot more than I expected to: I’m going to be taking Curvy Chiana out and about and maybe, just maybe, as she gets braver, I will too.

Lastly, I’d like to leave you with the words of a woman who has much inspired the ‘real life’ me – the first time I heard it I cried with relief that there was someone out there brave enough to say these things, to challenge the ideas of ‘accepted beauty,’ and she started me on my own, admittedly shaky, journey to body acceptance.

Full credits follow the video and remember, whoever you are, whatever you look like in whatever world, you are beautiful.

Yes you are.

❤

Credits

Clothing
WowMeh Applier: ‘Bodysuit (Black)‘ – Hawt Spot ClothingL$25 (applier only)

Body
Hair: ‘Shimmer‘ – MagikaL$250 – Pack 1 (30 colours via HUD)
Skin (face and hands): ‘Oceane (Ivory)‘ – Filthy – L$490 – discounted Fatpack
Skin (body): one of the basic tones included with the WowMeh body
Lipstick: ‘Lip Balm (Blood)‘ – AlyceL$90 – 20-colour pack
Lipshine: ‘Diamond Lips Lip Gloss – Dark Midday Designs – L$1 – Dollarbie (Marketplace)
Eyes: ‘Liquid Light Eyes (London Fog, w2)‘ – Mayfly – L$0 – Free Colour
Lashes: ‘Tableau Lashes‘ – Cheap Makeup – L$0 – Freebie (Marketplace)
Mesh Body: ‘WowMeh Headless Fitted Mesh Body‘ – WowMehL$899
Hands: ‘AvEnhance Hands (Elegant)‘ – Slink – L$450 (wearing included basic nailpolish)
Feet: ‘TipToe Feet‘ – WowMehL$50 – Promo Price (wearing included basic nailpolish)
Shape: a heavily modified version of my usual shape

Decor
Stage: ‘Les Folies Vintage Sideshow‘ – POSTL$800 (includes much more than pictured)
Sign: ‘Big & Beautiful‘ – by Chiana Oh (not for sale)

Photo Tools
Pose (Main Pic): ‘Diamonds 1 (w/Swing)‘ – {NanTra}L$60 – 7 poses/1 prop ($60L Weekend Promo Price)*
(*hand & neck positions modified slightly with Animare)
Pose (Pic 2): ‘Diamonds 2 (mirror)‘ – {NanTra}L$60 – 7 poses/1 prop ($60L Weekend Promo Price)
Pose (Pic 3): ‘P.Y.T. 3‘ – ploomL$75 – 10-pose pack (Lazy Sunday Promo Price)
Facial Expressions: ‘Expression HUD v1.0‘ – AnyPose – L$0 – Freebie
Facelight: ‘Light Lab v1‘ – Color Lab – L$0 – Freebie (Marketplace)
Windlight Setting: ‘Silver‘ by StrawberrySingh.com
Editing: GIMP & PicMonkey

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Let It Snow!

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There are so many wonderful events and promotions going on at the moment; I’m in a total whirl trying to keep up with them all! A few that you definitely aren’t going to want to miss are the following:

ploom – 12 Days of Christmas Sale: every day for the next 12 days a hairstyle is going to be set at a sale price. Today’s hair, ‘Miseria‘ is just L$100 per colour pack or L$125 for the indecisive pack/L$600 fat pack!

Existence sim (BOOM, PIDIDDLE & Miseria) – 12 Days of Giving: “Make a purchase at one of the participating stores on the Existence sim between December 12th and December 24th to automatically be entered to win. Each day one winner will be chosen and will receive their choice of 1000L worth of products. On December 24th, everyone who made a purchase between December 12th and December 24th will have a chance to win 20,000L in cash and prizes.”

JeSyLiLO – Group Gifts: I’ve mentioned this before but it’s such a good offer I think it deserves to be mentioned again! Over 100 gifts for group members are scattered all over the sim – the group is only L$50 to join so this is a fab time to do so if you haven’t already!

HopScotch – Advent Calendar: each day a pose is set out at just L$1!

Happy shopping! ❤

Hair: ‘Lewna‘ – ploomL$125 – Indecisive Pack (12 Days of Christmas promo)
Skin: ‘League of Christmas‘ – JeSyLiLOL$0 – Group Gift [L$50 to Join]
Eyes: ‘Liquid Light Eyes (Vivid Blue)‘ – MayflyL$0 – Group Gift [Free to Join]
Cardigan: ‘Ash Cardigan (Midnight)‘ – MiseriaL$125 – 2-Colour Pack
Tank: ‘Knit Tank (Lavender)‘ – BOOML$125
Necklace: ‘Cervidae Necklace (Gold)‘ – PIDIDDLEL$200 – 2-Version Pack
Skirt: ‘Love Me Skirt (Twilight)‘ – BOOML$75
Shoes: ‘Gatsby Heels (Chestnut)‘ – Ingenue – L$295
Shape: ‘Keri‘ (modded) – Panda Punx – L$0– Past Group Gift (no longer available)

Covered in Rain‘ pose by HopScotch (Advent Calendar 7, L$1)
Taken on the Existence sim

Epically Sketchy

This is a little bit of a lazy post, as I’ve blogged some of these items before, but I wanted to quickly show you the new VIP group gifts from Epic. The VIP group costs L$250 to join but I think it’s awesome value for money as each month you get a gift, cheapie and group-exclusive lucky board; the item are themed and always look great!

They also keep out four past ‘VIP Group Favourites’ (in case you miss them) which are, currently, last month’s ‘Gamer Girl‘ (mesh) dresses in original and pink, a ‘Rainbow Hoodie‘ (mesh) and ‘Rainbow Warmers.’

Dress: ‘Kawaii Sketchy Dress‘ (mesh) – EpicL$5 – VIP Group Exclusive [L$250 to Join]
Necklace: ‘Eccentric Pencil Necklace‘ – Apple May Designs – L$0 – Freebie
Boots: ‘Dolly Kickers (Rainbow)‘ – Pinkmare’s HouseL$0 – Previous Lucky Board
(available to buy for L$75)

Hoodie: ‘Kawaii Sketchy Hoodie‘ (mesh) – EpicL$0 – VIP Group Gift [L$250 to Join]
Jeans: ‘Cute Jeans‘ – Crash RepublicL$0 – Grand Opening Gift
(still out at time of post – next to gatchas)
Shoes: ‘Cat Flats (Red)‘ – MDL – L$0 – Group Gift [Free to Join]

On Both
Hair: ‘Daisy‘ (colour change, mesh) – PloomL$0 – Hunt Prize
(Mesh Around Hunt, ends June 15th)
Mouthie: ‘Sketchy Nom-Nom‘ – EpicL$0 – VIP Group LB (2mins) [L$250 to Join]
Skin: ‘HoRanG‘ – Mother Goose’s – L$0 – Lucky Board (3mins)
Tattoo: ‘PetaPeta‘ – NaturalL$0 – Previous Group Gift* [Free to Join]
(*now limited to avatars under 30 days old)
Eyes: ‘Glass Eyes (Charcoal, M)‘ – Roly-Poly – L$0 – Free Colour
Lashes: ‘Corner Only Eyelashes‘ – Rosy Mood – L$0 – Freebie
Nails: ‘LaLa Black‘ – Formanails – L$0 – Past Group Gift [Free to Join]
(available to buy for L$349)
Shape: ‘Jelly‘ (modded) – Cupcakes (@FabFree) – L$0 – Freebie

Pics taken at Ethereal Nature Collaborative – Greenies!
(I miss the original Greenies home and I’m glad at least something from it remains.. all of the builds are free to buy so you can take a piece of them home if you like!)
Poses ‘fwee5‘ and ‘daww‘ by E.inK (Marketplace, L$0)